Naturally Getting Pregnant

I’ve been turning in circles about which way to take my career. After many pros/cons lists, much pondering, and weeks of journaling with no verdict, I decided to turn to a professional.

What does this have to do with fertility? Initially, nothing, until about an hour into the first session: I’m crying. Not about my career.  I’m crying over the positively overwhelming desire I have for children. This makes clear that having a family currently trumps my career. Yes, in reality I know this, but the interesting part is when our discussion turns to my family and reveals a slew of repressed feelings.

These feelings, according to Niravi Payne, an internationally recognized mind-body fertility therapist, can stand in the way of having a child. Niravi wrote a book titled: The Whole Person Fertility Program (SM). It’s a book I not only own already, but one I have partially worked through.

In working through this book only months ago I sat down with my parents to map out our family history including thoughts, attitudes and behaviors of each family member. But when I did this exercise, I didn’t really have any strong emotions. In fact, I chalked it up as an interesting conversation with my parents but nothing more. And now in my career coach’s office I’m crying and have a release of feelings I never knew I had. I’m not just teary eyed – I’m all out sobbing.

So, when I catch my breath again, I tell my coach that I actually tried to get to the bottom of my feelings about my family history months ago. She gives me the simple but obvious answer that it’s because I was analyzing it with my head instead of opening up to my feelings.

Bing. Light bulb. I am an analytical person. Getting to my feelings has always been a bit tricky, so maybe my shell is a little harder to crack than I thought. Niravi’s program is said to work with or without a physician but it seems that for those with a harder shell the assistance could be necessary.

Little did I know that the move to see a professional career coach was going to lead me to fertility treatment. I’ll go for hope here and hope that it does what Dr. Northrup, an expert in women’s health, says that Niravi’s program does for couples, “…Very often when individuals and couples really engage in the transformational work Niravi presents here, a child indeed comes into their lives.”

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